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by: Steve Brunkhorst
Our children are our most important legacy to the world.
However, our love is our most important legacy to our children. Here are seven
ways to show love that will help children build sturdy foundations for the future.
1. Spend Time with Your Children.
Time is the most loving gift we can give to our children. It
allows for the mutual exchange of ideas, emotions, actions, and words that help
our children develop and learn to communicate.
Enjoy a toddler's tea parties as well as a teen's ball games.
Help your children build things and create art. Begin new family traditions
that you can enjoy together each year. Ample time spent in mutually enjoyable
activities will create memories you will always treasure.
2. Be the Primary Role Model for Your Children.
Children need examples to follow. Teach practical values to your children
by modeling those values. Admit when you have made a mistake and apologize.
Model being committed to the ideals you embrace. Demonstrate the advantage of
integrity over peer pressure.
We teach and influence children more through actions than words.
We are our children's first heroes; the ideals that we live today are the ideals
that will influence our children throughout life.
3. Listen to Your Children.
A child's message is one of his or her most essential gifts.
We build self-esteem in children when we show interest in what they have to
say. Children need to communicate their pride of accomplishment as well as their
needs.
Get down at eye level with very young children and listen with your
eyes, ears, and heart. Listen most of all to the feelings conveyed
through a child's eyes and expressions. If you listen to your children deeply,
they will grow up listening deeply to you.
4. Provide Your Children with Loving Discipline.
Children need guidelines and safe boundaries without being constrained
unnecessarily. They need to learn the value of being accountable for
their choices and actions.
Let your children know that you disapprove of hurtful actions but will
always love them as sons and daughters. Loving discipline enables them
to recognize the best in other people. It allows children the freedom to explore
the world safely and reach their highest potential.
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5. Give Your Children Encouragement.
Encouraging words are powerful emotional deposits of confidence and
self-esteem. Verbally acknowledge your children's special talents and
accomplishments. Catch your children doing something great, and tell them what
a great job they have done.
Children need to know that we recognize and support their hopes and
dreams for the future. Encouraging children to grow mentally, emotionally,
and spiritually provides the foundation for living a balanced life.
6. Share Your Experiences with Your Children.
We each have valuable stories to tell, unique maps of our journey through
life. These stories tell how our reactions to events created the
life we are living
now. Sharing the benefit of your experiences — the roadblocks and rewards
— is a very loving way to guide your children.
Your children may face many of the situations you faced. Your
experiences can help them make informed decisions and avoid unnecessary mistakes.
Among the most worthwhile possessions that we can someday leave for our children
are journals filled with the stories that shaped our lives.
7. Love and Support Your Children Unconditionally.
Love is an unconditional gift from the heart; it is not a reward for
good behavior. Let your children know that you will love and support
them in any situation. This message creates a sturdy bond of trust. Your children
will grow to feel safe in coming to you with any problem they face.
Children need the freedom to make decisions, try new things,
and learn that life requires personal responsibility and persistence. They need
the freedom to fail and learn from mistakes without being judged. Unconditional
love helps them to acquire the decisiveness and resiliency required to become
successful.
If you could sum up all of our children's needs, hopes,
and expectations in one word, that word would be love. We share love
when we play a central role in our children's world of learning and discovery.
Our legacy of love will have a guiding influence upon our children and grandchildren
for many generations.
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Steve is a professional life success coach, motivational
author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular
mini-zine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts
to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue
by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com

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