Confidence is also developed through lifting people around you. One thing I tell people who are just starting out in careers is you can't rise above your boss. If you put your boss down, what does that make you? It makes you dumb. That is the nicest word I could think of to answer that question. You need to lift the people that are around you. If the people around you are all extraordinary, what does that make you? Extraordinary. To lift yourself, lift your boss, your peers, and those who follow you.

It is a very simple notion. Start to lift the confidence of the people around you. Praise them and always speak well of them and you'll find you gain tremendous confidence. You may not be there yet, so let's discuss how you get there. Almost everyone today has heard of Julio and Enrique Iglesias. Julio, who passed the bar to become a lawyer in Spain, had a tragic car accident and was in the hospital for three years. While he was in the hospital, a nurse gave him a guitar to distract him. He became quite good and started singing to all the nurses. Pretty soon the nurses brought in other patients to listen. Somebody started bringing in magazines, and Julio would cut out pictures of singers. He said that someday he was going to sing with Willie Nelson and with Dolly Parton and with Stevie Wonder. He cut out pictures of each of these musicians and created a storyboard. He lifted himself from the hospital in Spain to becoming a great singer. He sings in eight different languages. He received the Diamond Record Award from the Guinness Book of World Records for selling more records in more languages than any other singer in musical history. He has 2,650 gold and platinum records and 77 albums.

The next two steps are absolutely critical to gaining confidence. Remember, confidence is a skill in life. It is a skill you need to practice. As you practice being confident, you will be more confident. This will help you in all areas of your life.