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by Lisa Dunning, MA, MFT
When a couple decides their marriage is over, a tremendous sense of grief
and relief are felt. A recently divorced person will feel grief over the
loss of their marriage and the loss of their partner in life. But there
is also a sense of relief that the pain and anguish is now over and their
healing can begin. For couples without children divorce is a far simpler
process. They are not continually seeing each other to bring up all those
bad feelings over and over again. When children are involved parents must
learn their new roles and coexist quickly to minimize the negative effects
of divorce on children.
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The effects of divorce on children can be very traumatic.
Some children blame themselves for the divorce, believing that they caused
their parent's divorce due to their bad behavior or not listening. Some children
just shut down after the divorce and find it very difficult to express their
feelings. Often they look as sad as they feel, withdrawing from friends and
activities they once enjoyed.
The effects of divorce on children can harm their future.
The effects of divorce on children can be detrimental to their future relationships.
Children sometimes feel betrayed by their parents, resulting in a mistrust
of others. This inability to trust others hinders their ability to form
intimate relationships.
Parents can minimize the effects of divorce on children
The good news is that the effects of divorce on children can be minimized
by their parents. Parents can reassure their kids that the divorce is not
their fault. It is also important for parents to make their child feel safe
by reassuring their child that they are loved by both parents. It is also
important to let your child know that parents do not divorce their children.
Tell your child that you are available to answer any questions they might
have about the divorce. The effects of divorce on children will be less
severe if the couple is able to put aside their differences as much as possible
and work together to provide a loving, safe and consistent environment in
both parents homes.
Other articles you may find interesting:
Read
Lisa Dunning's Biography. Lisa is the author of the eBook "How
to Parent Together When Your Parenting Styles are Worlds Apart",
available in our store.
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