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By: Sharon Alger
You’re back on the dating scene. But
you’re worried as it’s been a long time since you were single or
looking. Regardless of how exciting and new it all seems, it’s only natural
for one to feel unsure and ‘out of practice’ when taking the step
of going on dates again.
So, I have compiled the ten best things you can do
to gain some confidence, and have more fun during this transition.
Get a makeover. A new haircut, wardrobe,
or updated makeup will not only make you feel better about yourself, it will
also help to mark this time of your life as a new beginning, and something
to be excited about. If you look and feel great, it will give you more confidence
which is always more attractive to others.
Don’t take it all too seriously to
begin with. Look at this time as a chance to get used to talking to others,
flirting, coming out of your shell. It doesn’t matter if a serious relationship
doesn’t develop, as long as you are having fun! Enjoying yourself will
put others at ease and more people will approach you.
Start by going out with a group of friends
first. This will feel more natural to start out with.
When on a date, nerves sometimes can take over, and we tend
to talk more, to try to overcome this. Please try to avoid this. Learn
to become a great listener. Also, when you do talk to your date,
keep the topics light to begin with. Speak slowly, you’ve got all night!
Try to discuss subjects you are both interested in, which will help the conversation
to flow more smoothly.
Always have a ‘way out’ planned in
case a date does turn out badly. Take your mobile phone with you, and ask
a friend or relative to phone you at a certain time. If you really want to
bail out of the date early, you can tell your date after the phone call that
you are very sorry, but you’re going to have to cut the evening short.
Remember your date is just as nervous as you are.
They are obviously interested enough to get to know you better, and are therefore
just as anxious to make a good impression. Try to spend your time on dates,
making the other person feel at ease. Not only will your date appreciate this
effort, but you will be focusing less on yourself and how you’re ‘doing’.
Try to keep up to date with current news events
before your date. Nobody is suggesting you pore over newspapers for hours
on end. However, if you have some understanding of what is going on in the
world around you, it’ll give you both a conversation topic that is easy
to discuss.
If you have just suffered a painful breakup, try
not to focus too heavily on it. Your date wants to know all about
you. Not your ex. Of course, if you are going through a divorce, it’s
fine to mention it, but keep it to a minimum, and remember your date is not
your therapist!
Take care of your health. Eat well and
exercise. A healthy person is a happy person, and this will reflect well in
your self esteem. Know that you are putting your best self forward.
If you come across a set back (for example, your date loses
interest or you lose interest in your date) don’t worry! Look
upon it as practice. Remind yourself that the aim was to have fun
and you did. Look forward to your next romantic adventure!
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Sharon is the owner of the free dating site, www.singles-world.info.
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