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Somewhere Over the Rainbow
By: Phyllis Benton
As a child of twelve I was a victim of child molestation. In
a foster home, as a teen, I was physically abused. Seven years of my life, I
endured physical, sexually, verbal abuse from an abuser. Finally
escaping, I found myself attracted again to an abuser. Not looking for the warning
signs, I spent nine more years of my life in another abusive relationship. I
decided I wasn’t going to let that happen again.
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I was awakened on my birthday with my husband singing happy
birthday to me. He whispered happy birthday in my ear.
Five years ago I met a man that was unlike any of the men I
had ever been involved with. He intimidated me at first. I almost passed him
by because I was afraid of getting into another abusive relationship.
He told me stories and I questioned if they were true, I was so used
to being lied to. Some how this man was different and I felt it was
so right. He was laid back and didn’t let much upset him.
We laughed and talked and it felt good. We wanted the
same things in life happiness, loving each other, and working together
to achieve those things. We had good communication. He told me the truth about
everything even if he felt I wouldn’t like it, he was honest. He was so
none abusive in any way.
He encouraged me to do the things I wanted and not
to do anything that I was uncomfortable with. He encouraged me to be
myself and go after the things he knew I wanted. I now know the true meaning
of love, and loving. With so many accomplishments in the past five years, I
am a lucky person to have such a wonderful husband.
Watch for warning signs and steer away. Some of the signs to
watch for are:
Intense jealousy of friends or family.
Yelling shouting and intimidation.
Controlling behavior and persistent put downs.
Shows severe mood swings.
Has poor self-image and blames others for problems.
Unemployed.
Shows cruelty to animals.
Abuse of alcohol or other substances and other unexplained
behavior.
It is so easy for women that have been in abusive relationships
to attract men and be attracted to abusive men.
Women stay in abusive relationships for many reasons:
Where will I go and how will I support myself?
So emotional torn apart that nothing seems real and you can’t
think rational anymore. Mental abuse has left you at rock bottom.
Fear that your partner will follow and stalk you.
Fear of emotional damage to children.
Not being able to find a job.
Ties to home and belongings.
Fear of the unknown.
Don’t let yourself be a victim. Get help and get away
from the abuse. There are safe homes and help lines for abuse victims.
Have a happy ending like I have.
Other articles you may find interesting:
 Phyllis
Benton, Living Nightmares of Abuse. Autobiography. An inspirational and emotional
story of abuse. Survivor of emotional, sexual, and physical abuse. Book will
be available when released through publishamerica and other on line book stores.
ISBN # 1-4137-9156-5. www.pdbenton.org,
www.freewebs.com/dianesfantasy/
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