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by: Hanif Khaki
The following article offers some insight to those involved
in the wonderful world known as Parenting.
There are just as many parenting styles as there are a number
of parents. Experts believe the parenting styles fall into 4 different
and identifiable styles: authoritarian, indulgent, authoritative, and
uninvolved.
Let's examine this more closely. The first parenting style
is that of the authoritarian parent. These parents are like
army commanders. They prefer to issue commands and orders to their children
and fully expect their children to carry out their orders without questioning
them. Authoritarians do not welcome nor appreciate any feedback from their children.
They live by set and defined rules in a structured environment.. These children
as we now know, are generally considered to have an unhappy nature about them.
Boys generally exhibit hostile behaviour when dealing with frustration, whereas
girls tend to give up easily when faced with difficult situations. Both the
boys and girls however, tend to perform better in school due to their disciplined
upbringing.
The second parenting style is the indulgent parent.
These parents are generally lenient. They allow a variety of behaviours by their
children that some would describe as immature. Essentially, they let the children
look after themselves and avoid confronting them at all costs. Indulgent parents
may also be described as non-directive or democratic. Non-directive parents
are known to parent by default, that is, by taking virtually no action in parenting
of their children. Democratic parents, though lenient, are more aware and show
a committment to engage with their children.
The third parenting style is that of the authoritative
parent. These parents are both demanding and responsive at the same
time. Authoritative parents while expecting their their children to behave in
a certain manner, don't impose their authority and welcome a certain amount
of questioning. They demonstrate a combination of assertiveness coupled with
the ability to respond to their children's feedback. These children appear to
be more lively and have a happier disposition about them. Their self-confidence
is more developed they seem to be more sure of their abilities. These children
also show better emotional control and are more adept in their social skills.
Gender stereotypes are also less of an issue with authoritative parents, as
they tend to be more open minded in their outlook towards their children's behaviour,
i.e. boys playing with dolls and girls playing with tools.
Lastly, we look at the parenting style known as "uninvolved
parenting". As the name suggests, these parents are simply uninvolved.
They are neither demanding nor responsive of their children and they are not
interested in any feedback from them. These parents are the most likely to be
irresponsible and more often neglect their children.

About The Author Hanif Khaki is the acclaimed author of numerous
parenting related articles and the founder of the popular parenting resource
site www.parenting-info.inform-about.com.

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