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How Do You Maintain an 'Unquestionable, Positive Demeanor'?
by Donna P. Lendzyk
Near the end of December 2004, I received an email from one
of my colleagues that I had not heard from in awhile saying, "Donna, I'm
wondering if I might have a moment of your time in the near future to ask you
some questions about what I've observed to be your unquestionable, positive
demeanor. Any time that I've encountered you, I've found your attitude
is very infectious, and I'd like to talk to you about how you maintain it and
where it springs from."
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To be honest, I was astonished by this request. I know I'm
a positive person but I was surprised to have such an impact
on someone I rarely interact with.
Before meeting with my colleague, I made a few notes to prepare.
I've decided to share these notes with you as well. To me, if we can remain
positive, we will enjoy much more success with overcoming, overwhelming
and achieving our desired results.
1. Develop An Optimistic Outlook
Always try to see the best in everything.
Try to focus on all that is now possible rather than worrying about what might
be impossible.
2. Practice Detachment
Strive to let things go. This isn't easy to
master, but if you keep this objective in mind and do it more often, it will
become easier.
3. Select Your Fights And Arenas
When we work and live with others, we need to consciously
choose when it's important to fight for something and when it's acceptable
to compromise. Sometimes when you stop and think about it, you'll realize that
certain battles are not worth having. Other times you'll decide it's more appropriate
to deal with it at a different time and in a different place.
4. Choose Your Environment, Leader,
Colleagues And Team
People often choose their work, or their position without considering
the types of people they will be working with. Before selecting an opportunity,
consider the personality and style of the people you'll be working around,
whether you'll be compatible with them, and whether you'll be able to learn
from them.
5. Strategize On The Win
Professional athletes and teams do this - why wouldn't we?
Planning how you'll achieve your desired goals improves the
likelihood you'll succeed. Strategically thinking about how to achieve your
daily, weekly and monthly goals will help you feel great. You'll have a plan
and you'll be taking regular steps towards fulfilling it.
6. Ask Yourself Every Day, "Did I Win Today?"
Consider the day a win if the results you felt positive about outweighed those
that you didn't feel very positive about. If, overall, a certain day doesn't
feel like a "win", immediately plan how to make the evening better,
and how to set yourself up to win the next day.
7. Direct Your Passion Toward
A Special Cause
Find a special cause that moves you and contributes to improving
someone else's quality of life. You'll feel wonderful about making a difference.
When you know you're helping the greater good, you'll feel worthwhile and, as
a consequence, you'll experience ongoing pleasure.
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8. Focus On How Can You Help
Others
Helping others can have an enormous impact
on your outlook and attitude. Make sure your definition of personal success
includes helping other people and making a positive difference in their lives.
9. Associate With Great People
As much as possible, avoid spending time with "Negative
Nellie's" and people that you can barely tolerate. These people
will drain your energy. Instead, hang out with great, positive people that suit
your style; their attitudes will be contagious.
10. Know Yourself Well
To truly be positive, you need to consciously, deeply
know what you really like, what you genuinely don't like, what you
are good at, and what you are not good at. If you understand these things about
yourself, and make decisions according to your interests and strengths, you
will naturally be more positive.
11. Take Great Care Of Yourself
If you don't take exceptional care of yourself, it will be
more challenging to have a positive demeanor. Getting sufficient sleep,
eating healthy food, exercising and having fun all influence your disposition.
12. Enjoy The Ride
Life does provide challenges but we grow and
learn through adversity. So enjoy it!
Other articles you may find interesting:
 Donna
P. Lendzyk is a professional coach and creator of the Overcome Overwhelm System.
She coaches businesswomen to "Overcome Overwhelm and Achieve Their Desired
Results." She is the author of the multi-media “Overcome Overwhelm
eProgram.” To learn more about her eProgram and sign up for more FREE
tips like these, visit her website at www.overcomeoverwhelm.com
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